Pretty Chiq's Blog

"A regret is something that one holds onto but have done. I've always been told to never regret a decision made, especially one that cannot be undone. Life is to be lived, irregardless of what have happened, we have within our power to change what we can! Stop living in the past, appreciate your present and look forward to your future!" --PrettyChiq      Irregardless of the situation or decisions one has made, we must be aware that it is human nature to make mistakes. No one is perfect, and regret is a natural part of life. Regret can be defined as the feeling of shame and guilt associated with an action, thought or lack of action or thought that one which can be changed. Too many people hold on to this emotion as though it is going to change the past. Like many others, I too have been faced with many occasions that I have come to regret. Holding on to many of those issues, I became depressed.  Throughout this phase of my life, I allowed myself to feel th

"People will always try to break you, the things they do should not make you. When they do their acts and talk their talks, you let them slip, slide and fall, like trash's suppose to fall....to the ground." --PrettyChiq Never, ever ever let people get the best of you. One of the key components I have mastered that have allowed me to stay happy is to never let my adversaries see my weakness. Instead of giving anyone the satisfaction of knowing they can and/or have hurt me, I prefer to remove myself from a situation.  My advice is as simple as this. The true way to maintain your happiness is to pace yourself. Once you realize you are you, and you will realize you, and only you can set a pace that will maintain your happiness.You will no longer be envious of others as a result of such. Success and happiness comes at a different rate for everyone. Some get success earlier and stay in the same spot while others work slowly and obtain a greater success. Stop

"If I can deceive myself by doing what I thought I would never do, by saying the things I swore I'd never say, why would I put my trust and faith in others? Why would I be shocked and upset by the deceit and disregard of others when I too can and at times deceive myself?"  --PrettyChiq   While this is true...      However, the bible clearly states...     While this true, it still hurts. No matter how many I have heard the saying, "actions speaks louder than words," I sought to fulfill what I lack within myself.  Found myself in many relationships, of an unromantic nature, that I alone valued. Seeking what? Validation, love, or affection? I knew many times I was lied to, not cared for, but the emptiness of not knowing one's self can cause any person to overextend him or herself. Remembering and reflecting on this period of my life, I have decided to share a story that an elder of my family always shared with me. The same elder who

  "Sometimes in life, we must appreciate what we have It's not till things are not what we would like them to be do we appreciate life Life is too beautiful to not be happy! Smile & live life responsibly!" --PrettyChiq        There is always something to complain about. I can list at least 10 things that I am displeased with. Thinking in a negative manner however is not conducive to a successful life or lifestyle. I have spent many years worrying about what others think, what they have do and do not do and how I can please others. Today however, I learned what true appreciation really is.   As I celebrated my best friend's birthday, her coming of age, I was amazed  by her love for the simplest things in life. We learn and' take different qualities and traits from our friends. It wasn't till today, did I realize I've learned the art of appreciation from my bestie. It does not matter the little you do for her, she is happy. Sh

  "Getting angry is actually punishing yourself for the actions of others." --PrettyChiq      Never let people get under your skin. Do realize, no matter the age or intellectual dexterity of the person who has gotten under your skin, some people will not grow up nor do they have the emotional sensitivity to be anymore than what they are.   I have come across many emotionally insensitive and troubled people. As a result of their pain and shame, they desire that everyone around them must also be miserable. I knew someone once asked me, "why are you so damn happy all the time, it's annoying." I cannot understand why and how one cannot be happy, when one is living life with a clearly defined purpose.     People are not going to change, because they do not want to. If anything, realize those miserable people want you as angry and as bitter as they are. Never give anyone or anything that power, they are not worth it! They cannot appreci

"Get up, Get out, and realize, you do not need to look outside yourself for happiness! Happiness is not only a choice, but it is within you at all times. Why not choose it 24/7?" --Pretty Chiq      Perspective is everything! It is not what happens in life, but what you do about it!   I love my job currently. Everyday and in every situation, I am taught something. When there is an opportunity to learn, one ought to. So I have yet another story that changed my perspective of life. For this I am grateful for all my patients, good and bad, their struggles and victories humble me.       Yet another patient inspired me. She was 33 years old, with a history of Rheumatoid Arthritis, two total hip replacement, living a life plagued by constant pain. When asked, "how much is your pain today?" My patient responded, "A 9, I'm accustomed to it though nurse, nothing I can do, at least I can feel."   I was floored, humbled and shocked. 

    "I believe everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they are right. You believe lies so you eventually learn learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." --Marilyn Monroe   There is nothing more powerful and beautiful than love. To have someone that you can share your deepest and secretive thoughts, someone to hold you when you are scared; a person to console and motivate you when you are down. I have come to realize one thing however. Loving someone is not the same as that person loving you back. I am not talking a love of just a romantic nature, if that's what love means for you, then so be it. I am talking of love in it's truest sense, whether it be for family, friends or a significant other. We can place so much faith and trust in these people to only be let down and hurt. What is love?