Pretty Chiq's Blog

"Be sure of yourself. Know that no matter what anyone say, you are unique, and one of a kind. In life you will meet many people but are constantly only with yourself, own that self! Love, cherish and believe in yourself and others will also!" --PrettyChiq     NEVER FORGET THAT....     AND TO.....     It is very simple to look at others and make a deductive reasoning about that person based on what that person looks like or what they present to the world. People are different and can be viewed differently based on the way they treat others and one's perception. This blog today was influenced by different people with all one common problem--a poor sense of self. "You are what you think, eat and hope to be. It is as simple as willing it, placing yourself in situations to have the pieces of the puzzle come together." --PrettyChiq      I know many beautiful women, incredibly successful, with inspiring stories--women whose

"Julius Caesar once said, 'Et Tu, Brute?,' and you too Brutus? If Julius Caesar was betrayed by those around him, even his closest friend, why are we so surprised when those closest to us stab us in the back also?" --PrettyChiq   If this is not a classic example in history of betrayal, then Luke 22:48 is yet another   **********************************   Luke 22:48 But Jesus asked him, "Judas will you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?"   The people closest to you possess the greatest ability to hurt and disappoint you. It is not because of their qualifications, but because of the role and importance YOU have placed on them. The expectations you may have of those persons may be too high and may not have been earned. In order to place people in our lives, we tend to focus on the features of things we find most attractive, beneficial or inspiring...many of times, we disregard what is clearly in front of us--that person.    

"Sometimes its necessary to get away, clear your head. Once you step back from the situation, it makes more sense." --PrettyChiq "You should wake up everyday as though you are your biggest priority. By investing in yourself and your future, you can ultimately make the world a bigger and better place with all you have to offer. Don't let anyone steal your joy, not one is worth the stress but you!" --PrettyChiq  Sometimes things are as simple as you make them. There will be times when the world is closing in on you. Deal with the circumstances that overwhelm you. It is as simple as taking a break. Take a vacation, get away from the stress. By stepping back sometimes, you can view things in a better manner. Even if it means a weekend, it is healthy to step away from your environment or situation and reevaluate what's important and unimportant to you. "You are not weak for feeling and being human. Remember the gre

      "You may think you can only live as you know how, but if you do not expose yourself to different perspectives, cultures and opportunities, how can you possibly live a life outside your comfort zone? Stop living up to your own standards and live above and beyond them! Boring and safe does not lead to unique future and successes!" --PrettyChiq     Was on the phone two days ago with a close friend of mine, and that conversation is the focus of today's blog. She said to me, "I'm so unhappy with who I am, don't be like me....(silence) My biggest regret is not doing--I felt as though I'd have more respect if I did that." It is irrelevant what -- is, but she clearly living her life with regrets and in her very own well-constructed hell.   In my mind that's pointless and stupid. Why would one choose to be miserable, when one can choose to do something about it? The only reason I can explain how to get your standar

"There comes a point in every one's life where they plateau. It is up to that person to realize this, and change it! There is no reason to accept things the way they are when revolutionaries of the past have changed them! Get back to basics. If you are stuck in a rot, re-establish yourself, best investment your can make is in yourself!" --PrettyChiq     Stop making excuses for yourself and for other people. When life's so short, you need to remember things change. Your perspective changes as life impacts you. It is necessary for you to reestablish yourself and redirect your focus. I am not saying to change anything. All I am saying take time at least four times a year to check yourself and to make sure you are doing and thinking the right way to achieve your goals. In order for you to grow, sometimes you have to assess yourself and the things and people in your life and determine if they are indeed the right things and persons to be apart of your circle at

"Sometimes much does not have to be said, but you have to learn how to forgive." --PrettyChiq      When someone can look at you and all they can see is anger and pain, you are holding onto things that are not conducive to a healthy life--anger, resentment, pain etc. I am not stranger to those emotions, and for the longest while, I have fought a journey to change my perspective about my past and regrets. It all started with acceptance.   You have to both acknowledge what was done, and express yourself. When I say express yourself, it means reaching out to the people that have hurt you. It is not beneficial or necessary to do such in a degrading manner, so be classy about it. Being classy allows you to hold your composure and not be like the persons or person who have hurt you. You can also write your feelings down if you are not the confrontational type and rip or burn them up, sometimes people do not need to see your emotions. It is all about not hiding your pain, shame or r

  "Excuses are the tools of the weak and incompetent. Used to build monuments of nothingness Those who excel in it seldom excel in anything else but excuses" --Unknown      The things I have gone through would turn the strongest person into the weakest. Many of them almost broke me down, but I figured if other people can overcome their adversities, so can I. Irregardless of what I've experienced, I was taught the following: in order to truly grow, one have to learn how to let go . This is not a sign of weakness, but one of strength. It is incredibly easy to live in or with excuses, but the truth still remains what it is.     You have to realize the following:      This has lead me to want to share the following message since it pertains to excuses.   From my parents to ex-boyfriends, I have had many people hurt me. The only way and reason I was hurt is because I allowed those people to. A naive person is easy to control and to pla