Be Sure of Yourself!
"Be sure of yourself. Know that no matter what anyone say, you are unique, and one of a kind. In life you will meet many people but are constantly only with yourself, own that self! Love, cherish and believe in yourself and others will also!"
--PrettyChiq
NEVER FORGET THAT....
AND TO.....
It is very simple to look at others and make a deductive reasoning about that person based on what that person looks like or what they present to the world. People are different and can be viewed differently based on the way they treat others and one's perception. This blog today was influenced by different people with all one common problem--a poor sense of self.
"You are what you think, eat and hope to be. It is as simple as willing it, placing yourself in situations to have the pieces of the puzzle come together."
--PrettyChiq
I know many beautiful women, incredibly successful, with inspiring stories--women whose strengths I aspire to one day have. As great as these women may be and as great as their accomplishments stand, they lack confidence in some part of their life. This baffles me. No matter how much money they make, how great they look, the expensive vacations, cars, degrees, accomplishments and milestones they have met--they continue to feel inadequate.
Why are these women lacking the ability to reassure themselves that they are worthy of loving themselves baffles me. What I do know is I can give you examples of the type of women and examples of why and what they can, could of or should do to start their healing processes....
Woman #1: This a woman who's highly educated, PhD, countless credentials and titles behind her name. Despite her accomplishments and ability to climb up the ladder of her profession, she cannot find herself her own man. This woman chooses to be with a man who clearly does not love her enough to make her wife, but enough to keep her as mistress. Despite the decades he's been with her, he has never elevated her role in his life, and for this reason she feels incomplete.
Solution: It is difficult for people with many accomplishments to handle rejection. Usually those accomplishments stems from a life of rejection or an experience that impacted them greatly. As a result of such, such a person seek through success to feel fulfilled. This woman should have realized her worth a long time ago. She is goal-oriented, disciplined and worthy of any man. If the one she clearly is so comfortable with chose to be with another woman, the solution is clear--she should have, and to should, leave him and find her own.
Why: She'll never find pride in her accomplishments or life trying to a woman she can never be to a man that clearly does not value her enough. Accomplishments does not ensure that any man or woman will stay in a relationship, though it does gets one bragging rights.
Woman #2: The beautiful artistic, clearly fashionable woman. A woman who's accomplishments on the academic scale are few. Despite her lack of academic recognition, she is extremely attractive. This is the woman who can name every designer, can style any outfit and set trends. She's used her beauty her entire life to get what she wants, but is too trapped in the stereotype that society has set for her. She secretly yearns to be that woman of 'integity' and class instead of the woman with a tiny waist and a nice ass.
Solution: Everyone is not disciplined, have been taught discipline and is naturally witty. While such is true, there is no excuse for this woman to not have accomplished what she wanted to. Her journey in the academic world may be much more difficult than she who can grasp a topic easily, but she is not exempt from following her dreams. As she finds passion in looking good and being the center of attention, she can take that same passion and perspective and apply it to school.
Why: Even the career woman had to be molded. It is very possible that the successful woman was never as attractive or as popular as the beauty queen, but even at a young age, she too had to condition her mind to be disciplined enough to accomplish the things she has. Being beautiful or 'artistic' minded is no excuse for not having gone to Med, Business or Law school--lack of discipline and motivation are. There is nothing wrong with being beautiful or sexy, if anything it's a plus, but realizing there is more to life and trying to be more than your one's extremities is necessary for one to be successful!
Woman #3: Is a young woman who has the resources, opportunity and desire to be successful, but lacks the confidence because of fear of rejection and competition. This young woman is constantly comparing herself to other young women--which is stupid since she will never be them. She fashions herself, her mentality to fit the mold of whatever person she admires or envies at the moment.
Solution: Everyone is unique and different--she can offer something different to the world. Comparing herself to someone she does not know and cannot know, is just stupid especially if that person is not spending time thinking or caring about her. Instead of comparing what she does and does not have and beating herself up about those things, she can reach out to the person and honestly find out what makes things so 'perfect' for them. She can realize that success oftentimes stems from rejection, but rejection that is viewed as an opportunity to better oneself and do just that. To compare oneself to a complete stranger or someone else is just pointless, stupid and is a waste of time--especially since you will never ever be that person. If anything, one should strive to be the best one can be.
Why: Life is too short not to appreciate oneself. Successful people tends to be people who believe so deeply in their dreams, visions and goals that others believe also. It all starts with loving and appreciating what one have and then polishing it to be the best version of oneself!
What do all these women have in common?
These women do not realize their self-worth. One thing I've learned throughout my short life is that everyone have one unique, God blessed and given talent. It is usually this gift that is the key to a successful life for that person. It is as simple as embracing one's true self, and core and building from that.
- If you're the educated type and logical thinking works for you, use it. You know when you are unhappy and when to leave a situation, whatever the situation may be.
- If you are the beautiful and artistic person, who informed you that book smarts was the best way and only way to be successful. You can utilize your talents to be where you are--just note most recognized persons have degrees, certifications and credentials that allows others to take them seriously.
- If you desire to be great or to do great things, what's stopping you but you. You have to realize however that discipline is necessary. You may have to lose weight, change the way you dress, get a higher vocabulary, drop friends, family members etc. to be where you are.
In all of this, in all the examples, the women lacked self-assurance.
What is 'Self-assurance'?
It is defined as having or showing confidence or 'poise'.
One can only be envious or lack self-esteem if one does not love, appreciate or value oneself. That is just senseless. How can a person not love him or herself and he or she is uniquely and wonderfully made? A person can only compare him or herself to someone else when that person finds a difference, and it is differences that makes people fun and allows for change. I encourage everyone to find him or herself.
- One can do this through changing the way one view oneself, and this can only be done by peeling away the layers, writing down one' s insecurities and finding solutions for every unhappy problems or issue
Lesson of the Day
Remember to be of any influence to others,
"When you're busy living your life, a purpose-driven life, you have no time to worry or be jealous of others. Truly successful people understands the importance of their mind and uses positive thoughts and goals to prevent themselves from being engulfed in bitterness. Live life like it is meant to be and worth living!"
--PrettyChiq
***Live life as though it's worth living!!!***
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