Forgiveness (Regain the Control)

"Sometimes much does not have to be said, but you have to learn how to forgive."

--PrettyChiq

 



 

When someone can look at you and all they can see is anger and pain, you are holding onto things that are not conducive to a healthy life--anger, resentment, pain etc. I am not stranger to those emotions, and for the longest while, I have fought a journey to change my perspective about my past and regrets. It all started with acceptance.

 

You have to both acknowledge what was done, and express yourself. When I say express yourself, it means reaching out to the people that have hurt you. It is not beneficial or necessary to do such in a degrading manner, so be classy about it. Being classy allows you to hold your composure and not be like the persons or person who have hurt you. You can also write your feelings down if you are not the confrontational type and rip or burn them up, sometimes people do not need to see your emotions. It is all about not hiding your pain, shame or resentment--let it out!

 



 

Once it's out in a positive manner, understand that people will not react in the way you want them to. In response to your request you may get as blunt of a response as, "you know how I was." Don't take it to heart, realize people do things because they can. Once you acknowledge that some people are not worth the stress, and they are low--their words, actions and lack of actions can never phase you. If anything, you will pity such a weak-minded and willed person and cease to bother with them and their lies.

 

"After acknowledgement and acceptance, forgive yourself for allowing such nonsense in your life."

--PrettyChiq





 

 

On the path to recovery, you have to prevent the same cycle from occurring again. Why? It is as simple as other people being able to see your past and present mistakes on your body, and through your actions. When that past can clearly be seen in your behavior and your appearance, it is a problem. You are self-destructing yourself and it is negatively impacting your life. You have a choice, and you should choose yourself at all times.

 

Remember...



 

It is difficult to understand why and how people you love can easily disregard your feelings and emotions. Pain and resentment is not always applicable to a relationship, but can very much be the result of a relationship with a friend or family member. Without knowing it, these problematic relationships and actions affects us. I have written this blog to say the very following: Forgive them.

 



 

You should never give anyone the power where they alter your life or your happiness. By continuously obsessing and reminiscing about something unworthy, you limit the possibilities of other relationships. It is wrong and unhealthy to allow some circumstances and people to steal your happiness, joy and sense of self while they so effortlessly continue to live their lives.

 

 

Always remember you are worth your own happiness! Don't let others steal your shine. Let it go and live your life!

--PrettyChiq

 

Advice of the Day

 

 

 

"Take back the control over your life and stop what people do, think, say and not do affect you. No one should come above you and God....ever. Love yourself first and only then can others love and respect you."

--PrettyChiq