Enough Is Enough

"There comes a point in every one's life, wherein a person becomes tired of something. It is at this point when people choose to hold on that it is imperative to say--ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!"

--PrettyChiq

 

 

 

This have been an incredibly difficult week for absolutely no reason. There have not been a day wherein I did not feel some form of doom or depression weighing hard on me. Some may say it's hormones, others may say it's lack of motivation--it does not matter. I learned something this week however, when to say--ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. These are limits to everything. Step back, getting away or removing yourself from something is not a bad thing. Some people may say it's a sign of weakness, but many know it's a sign of stress of remove yourself from what you are most comfortable with.

 

 



As people, we become happy and comfortable in our cycles, making change incredibly difficult to understand or accept. We want things to be as comfortable as possible. With this desire close in mind or at heart, it is difficult to realize growth means change--and change sometimes hurt. There have not been a growth spurt, of an emotional, spiritual, intellectual or physical, that I can remember that have not hurt or taught me something. That is an example of a change. As you go through periods of growth and things begin to spurt--have faith that you have planted good seeds. Do note, that as every gardener battles weeds and pests, so will you have to battle figurative and literal pests and weeds in your life. Do not give you or lose focus!

 

 

 

 



With this perspective in mind, change does not seem so bad after all does it?  So then why people fear the unknown? Sometimes it's better than what we do have. From fearing school, relationships or a new position, these are all things that can change once our views of them change.

 

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I was visiting my patient today when my perspective changed. It donned upon me, I like, unlike many people, have the ability to choose. This ability to choose and make changes makes a big difference in my life. I can choose to be upset and depressed, or to do something about it--say "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. My patient cannot help his disease process--and no, my patient does  not have HIV/AIDS or Cancer. Quite contrary, my patient suffers from a disease process that is too natural and one that everyone who lives long enough will suffer from--very old age.



 



Seems uneventful and funny huh? Well my patient said this to me, and it immediately brightened my mood, "Don't even let me hear that you're sick or upset because of something you can change Nina. If you were crippled and had no choice, maybe, but you have so much going for you. If you can change something, change it." I smiled, and said good bye, but it didn't done to me as I was walking down the hallway and looked into the conference hall where a group of elderly persons sat laughing. Death and old age are sure--happiness is a choice...why did I then choose to be upset and depressed? I had to do something!

 



 



 

It does not matter how much knowledge a person have. The amount of blogs she writes. People are people, and are very likely to experience life as humans do. I am saying that I too have these days, and it's alright to have them. It is not okay, however to stay in them. So these are the following random thoughts I deduced from this situation or lesson learned:

1. I am young. For the use of my entire audience, I must state--it does not matter your age. You have life in you, no matter how limited, LIVE IT!

2. There are changes I can make to be more happy. One thing I heard a mentor of mine say is the following: "Change is something that's sure, and can be done...if you feel like it needs to be done, do it. It never donned on me how simple that is, but it is. It may not be to the degree or extent a person may want, but it is some form of change. E.g. Want to get married, then work at it and do so. Want happiness, do what it takes to get it.

3. Enough is enough! Saying this does not mean everything will automatically get better--it won't. But it sounds really awesome when you say it and place your hands on your hips. Saying it after every upset or issue in your mind or out loud can have a major impact on how you view things. For that second or day, you feel incredibly empowered.

4. Give yourself time to deal, grieve and be upset. Once again, nothing wrong with being in a funk--just don't stay in it!

 

 



You are worth every second of your happiness and to live life. Being depressed for a little while happens, and it's perfectly okay. You have to gather your gather yourself together and regroup--GET YOUR SWAG BACK, GET SEXY, GET RIGHT! You can do this by:

 

1. Listing your good qualities (e.g. degrees, physical attributes, personality trait, anything)

2. Make a list of your aspiring good goals

3. Make a list on how you will begin to get there

4. Find a book of quotes that is inspiring for whatever you want--e.g. love, success, happiness...anything

5. Write yourself a love letter. Sounds corny, but you have to find the time to date yourself. Focusing on you isn't selfish. Look at it as time taken to better yourself for others--then and only when you better yourself can you effectively and truly help others.

 

 

 



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--PrettyChiq