Love (A Reflection)

 

 

"I believe everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so you can appreciate them when they are right. You believe lies so you eventually learn learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

--Marilyn Monroe





There is nothing more powerful and beautiful than love. To have someone that you can share your deepest and secretive thoughts, someone to hold you when you are scared; a person to console and motivate you when you are down.

I have come to realize one thing however. Loving someone is not the same as that person loving you back. I am not talking a love of just a romantic nature, if that's what love means for you, then so be it. I am talking of love in it's truest sense, whether it be for family, friends or a significant other. We can place so much faith and trust in these people to only be let down and hurt.

What is love?

 

It is unconditional and understanding. We do not lose ourselves in the other person, but are able to grow. We such is not the case, it is not love, but infatuation, do not confuse the two.

 



When we are hurt by persons closest to us, it is oftentimes difficult to comprehend. When a parent turns their back on you, sometimes it is difficult to comprehend why. When a best-friend betrays you, you can sometimes feel responsible. It does not matter the nature of the relationship, it affects you, and is hard to let go.

I say...

 

Do not let people change you loving nature, your core....



No one is perfect. It is up to you to truly look into your relationship problems and determine the source of the problem. It is easier said than done to let a relationship go. Whether it's a romantic or unromantic relationship, all untrustworthy and distasteful situations in some relationships can be worked upon once that relationship is worth fighting for. You have to remember:

No one is perfect! We are all human-beings in search of a meaning for our lives and a purpose in each other's life. In this process of trying to find ourselves and better our lives, we can hurt each other.

• Do not allow someone to make you into a toy, whether it may be an ex, family, friends etc. Sometimes people may not know who they are or what they want.
• Their indecisive qualities and decisions that negatively impact your relationship is not your fault.
• Do not dwell on the past.
• Thank those persons for showing you their true colors. They have saved you much heartache!

Life is too short to ponder the actions of others. Many times, people  do not know what they are doing. It oftentimes take maturity and time for most people to  realize what they truly want in life. Do not waste your time pondering their thoughts or actions, live and embrace your life!

 

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***Remember***

• God's love is unconditional, he always love you!
• Love yourself, you are uniquely and wonderfully made!
• Pity those who cannot embrace love and who cannot cherish your goodness, it is their loss!
• Love, live and breathe wisely!

 

 

 

Advice of the Day 

 

 

Sometimes things are very simple as that which is in front of us. All relationships are not the best things that have happened to us, but they are to teach us something. Sometime the solution to every relationships is as simple as the relationship itself. If it's a problem, find a solution and solve it. If it's boring, spice it up. If you are not learning, leave it and go find someone who you feel you can learn from.

 

We are all trying to make things work that cannot or will not work for various reasons. If the same cycle continues, then it is your duty as an active participant to leave that relationship and find yourself and someone who can help you to meet your true satisfaction. You are surely worth it!

 

 

I say, forgive! To forgive is not to forget, but it is to allow yourself time and space to breathe.

In these situations you have many ways to hand the situation:

1. You can give yourself time and space to breathe. Sometimes being close to the people you love can cloud your vision. When you remove yourself from any situation, you are able to better observe it and make positive and constructive situations
2. Give yourself time from the situation. Sometimes you need to take an hour, day, week, month, year, couple years, or even a lifetime away from some people and situations. It takes strength to do it, but remember you are your first priority. If someone loves your, they would understand and would support your wishes.
3. Forgive yourself for your own weaknesses and your own mistakes. One of the biggest problems I have is forgiving myself for being human. We all make mistakes and oftentimes, we have to learn from a situation. In this learning process, we ourselves can hurt others. We must forgive others and forgive ourselves.

 

 

--PrettyChiq