Pretty Chiq's Blog

When in love, we oftentimes believe the best of people--we also see what we want to see. -PrettyChiq Sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away and continue to live and appreciate life. -PrettyChiq Many women and men fail to realize the men  or women they love can change overtime. Life has a way of 'softening' or 'hardening' people; it all depends on your nature--whether you're naturally a loving or hateful person. I have learned some people create the perfect image of who they believe someone wants them to be....My ex was no different, he created the image of the loving son that adores children and does not drink or cheat....while he really resents his parents, cheats and does drink. I became a victim of a web of lies. Over the years I have come to realize a man or woman obsessed with something is the most dangerous person I can know. My ex was obsessed with possessing women. While some men are obsessed with fame, money and power...he was and i...

 Sometimes we look for love in all the wrong places; we seek to find ourselves in others. Sometimes it takes an unlikely someone to teach us one of the greatest lessons we can ever learn....an ex. From my past relationship, I have learned there is nothing greater than the love of God. Once you have acknowledged this, you will then realize the second greatest thing is the love of yourself. When you're young you're taught Cinderella gets her prince and you learn there is no prince. Nothing can prepare you for the reality that life and love is far more complicated than just wanting someone. These periods of pain, turmoil, and distress oftentimes teaches us something and can build resiliency, strength and/or character. There are different varieties of love, each requiring a different strength. Each display of love--for God, for mother, for lover, for sibling, all requires a different part of your heart. Whenever one is missing, you can feel as though a piece of yourself...

"It is through truly bad can we truly appreciate the good." --PrettyChiq     Things are as bad as we make them; a relationship is no different! It is all based on our perspective. You miss the train or bus, you're annoyed. You miss the train or bus that gets into an accident and there are causalities, you feel grateful. You still missed the train. I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. I have learned some people rely on bad experiences to learn? My advice is to rely on the good and bad experience both....appreciate each step of your journey . I am saying, 'stop questioning things and learn to live with ease. Live in love, and be contented.' I can recall speaking with a friend of mine, and my friend was complaining about not being able to open up to her boyfriend. I believed my friend's boyfriend, despite their frequent ups and downs, was a good man and had the potential to be a great man. Based on the things she have tol...