Pretty Chiq's Blog

When in love, we oftentimes believe the best of people--we also see what we want to see. -PrettyChiq Sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away and continue to live and appreciate life. -PrettyChiq Many women and men fail to realize the men  or women they love can change overtime. Life has a way of 'softening' or 'hardening' people; it all depends on your nature--whether you're naturally a loving or hateful person. I have learned some people create the perfect image of who they believe someone wants them to be....My ex was no different, he created the image of the loving son that adores children and does not drink or cheat....while he really resents his parents, cheats and does drink. I became a victim of a web of lies. Over the years I have come to realize a man or woman obsessed with something is the most dangerous person I can know. My ex was obsessed with possessing women. While some men are obsessed with fame, money and power...he was and i...

 Sometimes we look for love in all the wrong places; we seek to find ourselves in others. Sometimes it takes an unlikely someone to teach us one of the greatest lessons we can ever learn....an ex. From my past relationship, I have learned there is nothing greater than the love of God. Once you have acknowledged this, you will then realize the second greatest thing is the love of yourself. When you're young you're taught Cinderella gets her prince and you learn there is no prince. Nothing can prepare you for the reality that life and love is far more complicated than just wanting someone. These periods of pain, turmoil, and distress oftentimes teaches us something and can build resiliency, strength and/or character. There are different varieties of love, each requiring a different strength. Each display of love--for God, for mother, for lover, for sibling, all requires a different part of your heart. Whenever one is missing, you can feel as though a piece of yourself...

How can you expect someone to love and cherish you when you cannot, do not and will not love and cherish yourself? If you're worthless to yourself, chances are you will be treated as such. Never met royalty who treated themselves like peasants. Remember people respect and treat you only as you allow yourself to be treated. Get it together, relationships are built not found. --PrettyChiq     Every relationship begins with oneself. The first thing to address is who are you?   Too often I hear people say they want the perfect relationship, yet they cannot tell me what their view of a perfect relationship is. They oftentimes do not even know themselves much less what they want from someone else. How can someone else know what you want or can give you what you need if you don't even know what that is? How can you expect someone to fulfill you, and accompany your dreams if you don't even know yourself or what you want?   This has always ...

"There comes a point in every one's life, wherein a person becomes tired of something. It is at this point when people choose to hold on that it is imperative to say--ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!" --PrettyChiq       This have been an incredibly difficult week for absolutely no reason. There have not been a day wherein I did not feel some form of doom or depression weighing hard on me. Some may say it's hormones, others may say it's lack of motivation--it does not matter. I learned something this week however, when to say--ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. These are limits to everything. Step back, getting away or removing yourself from something is not a bad thing. Some people may say it's a sign of weakness, but many know it's a sign of stress of remove yourself from what you are most comfortable with.      As people, we become happy and comfortable in our cycles, making change incredibly difficult to understand or accept. We want things to be as co...