Pretty Chiq's Blog

When in love, we oftentimes believe the best of people--we also see what we want to see. -PrettyChiq Sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away and continue to live and appreciate life. -PrettyChiq Many women and men fail to realize the men  or women they love can change overtime. Life has a way of 'softening' or 'hardening' people; it all depends on your nature--whether you're naturally a loving or hateful person. I have learned some people create the perfect image of who they believe someone wants them to be....My ex was no different, he created the image of the loving son that adores children and does not drink or cheat....while he really resents his parents, cheats and does drink. I became a victim of a web of lies. Over the years I have come to realize a man or woman obsessed with something is the most dangerous person I can know. My ex was obsessed with possessing women. While some men are obsessed with fame, money and power...he was and i

 Sometimes we look for love in all the wrong places; we seek to find ourselves in others. Sometimes it takes an unlikely someone to teach us one of the greatest lessons we can ever learn....an ex. From my past relationship, I have learned there is nothing greater than the love of God. Once you have acknowledged this, you will then realize the second greatest thing is the love of yourself. When you're young you're taught Cinderella gets her prince and you learn there is no prince. Nothing can prepare you for the reality that life and love is far more complicated than just wanting someone. These periods of pain, turmoil, and distress oftentimes teaches us something and can build resiliency, strength and/or character. There are different varieties of love, each requiring a different strength. Each display of love--for God, for mother, for lover, for sibling, all requires a different part of your heart. Whenever one is missing, you can feel as though a piece of yourself

"It is through truly bad can we truly appreciate the good." --PrettyChiq     Things are as bad as we make them; a relationship is no different! It is all based on our perspective. You miss the train or bus, you're annoyed. You miss the train or bus that gets into an accident and there are causalities, you feel grateful. You still missed the train. I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. I have learned some people rely on bad experiences to learn? My advice is to rely on the good and bad experience both....appreciate each step of your journey . I am saying, 'stop questioning things and learn to live with ease. Live in love, and be contented.' I can recall speaking with a friend of mine, and my friend was complaining about not being able to open up to her boyfriend. I believed my friend's boyfriend, despite their frequent ups and downs, was a good man and had the potential to be a great man. Based on the things she have tol

How can you expect someone to love and cherish you when you cannot, do not and will not love and cherish yourself? If you're worthless to yourself, chances are you will be treated as such. Never met royalty who treated themselves like peasants. Remember people respect and treat you only as you allow yourself to be treated. Get it together, relationships are built not found. --PrettyChiq     Every relationship begins with oneself. The first thing to address is who are you?   Too often I hear people say they want the perfect relationship, yet they cannot tell me what their view of a perfect relationship is. They oftentimes do not even know themselves much less what they want from someone else. How can someone else know what you want or can give you what you need if you don't even know what that is? How can you expect someone to fulfill you, and accompany your dreams if you don't even know yourself or what you want?   This has always bothered me, so I

"We are all wanting and are good. Sometimes however, we are unfortunate to encounter people who are not. Do not blame those people for the decisions made. Look to an experience, learn and better yourself. It's not what happens, you what you do about it." --PrettyChiq    So let's begin. 1. A person will change only when he or she wants to--just because you see good and potential in them means that person sees the same. In our desire to better ourselves, we automatically strive to bring our friends, partners and family along with us--STOP! Everyone is not interested in a journey to self-righteousness; they are comfortable and happy in their ways--LEAVE THEM ALONE! Trying to change people or altering their ways only causes you distress.   My story: In my quest to help myself, I strived to help my ex (financially, no....emotionally, yes). In this attempt, I was only confronted with the harsh reality: 'People change only when they want to.&

"Everyday you wake up, you should know your life is worth living and loving. Perfection is based on a person's perspective. What may be perfect to me, may be imperfect to someone else. Instead of beating yourself up for falling back a little or crashing, applaud yourself for surviving. As long as every day is lived as though it's worth living and you are worth loving, life will be and feel so fulfilling." --PrettyChiq    It is necessary to realize, life is not meant to be perfect. Who said you're suppose to go through perfect times each and every day? It is through adversity and tough times can one truly recognize and cherish the hard times. Sometimes it is through the very bad and rough times, can we truly appreciate and love the good. One have to know the bad in order to know what good truly is. I was talking to a friend of mine, and she told me she was tired of suffering and struggling. I listened as she spoke and agreed. She was going through s