Pretty Chiq's Blog

 Sometimes we look for love in all the wrong places; we seek to find ourselves in others. Sometimes it takes an unlikely someone to teach us one of the greatest lessons we can ever learn....an ex. From my past relationship, I have learned there is nothing greater than the love of God. Once you have acknowledged this, you will then realize the second greatest thing is the love of yourself. When you're young you're taught Cinderella gets her prince and you learn there is no prince. Nothing can prepare you for the reality that life and love is far more complicated than just wanting someone. These periods of pain, turmoil, and distress oftentimes teaches us something and can build resiliency, strength and/or character. There are different varieties of love, each requiring a different strength. Each display of love--for God, for mother, for lover, for sibling, all requires a different part of your heart. Whenever one is missing, you can feel as though a piece of yourself...

"It is through truly bad can we truly appreciate the good." --PrettyChiq     Things are as bad as we make them; a relationship is no different! It is all based on our perspective. You miss the train or bus, you're annoyed. You miss the train or bus that gets into an accident and there are causalities, you feel grateful. You still missed the train. I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. I have learned some people rely on bad experiences to learn? My advice is to rely on the good and bad experience both....appreciate each step of your journey . I am saying, 'stop questioning things and learn to live with ease. Live in love, and be contented.' I can recall speaking with a friend of mine, and my friend was complaining about not being able to open up to her boyfriend. I believed my friend's boyfriend, despite their frequent ups and downs, was a good man and had the potential to be a great man. Based on the things she have tol...

How can you expect someone to love and cherish you when you cannot, do not and will not love and cherish yourself? If you're worthless to yourself, chances are you will be treated as such. Never met royalty who treated themselves like peasants. Remember people respect and treat you only as you allow yourself to be treated. Get it together, relationships are built not found. --PrettyChiq     Every relationship begins with oneself. The first thing to address is who are you?   Too often I hear people say they want the perfect relationship, yet they cannot tell me what their view of a perfect relationship is. They oftentimes do not even know themselves much less what they want from someone else. How can someone else know what you want or can give you what you need if you don't even know what that is? How can you expect someone to fulfill you, and accompany your dreams if you don't even know yourself or what you want?   This has always ...

"We are all wanting and are good. Sometimes however, we are unfortunate to encounter people who are not. Do not blame those people for the decisions made. Look to an experience, learn and better yourself. It's not what happens, you what you do about it." --PrettyChiq    So let's begin. 1. A person will change only when he or she wants to--just because you see good and potential in them means that person sees the same. In our desire to better ourselves, we automatically strive to bring our friends, partners and family along with us--STOP! Everyone is not interested in a journey to self-righteousness; they are comfortable and happy in their ways--LEAVE THEM ALONE! Trying to change people or altering their ways only causes you distress.   My story: In my quest to help myself, I strived to help my ex (financially, no....emotionally, yes). In this attempt, I was only confronted with the harsh reality: 'People change only when they want to....

"Everyday you wake up, you should know your life is worth living and loving. Perfection is based on a person's perspective. What may be perfect to me, may be imperfect to someone else. Instead of beating yourself up for falling back a little or crashing, applaud yourself for surviving. As long as every day is lived as though it's worth living and you are worth loving, life will be and feel so fulfilling." --PrettyChiq    It is necessary to realize, life is not meant to be perfect. Who said you're suppose to go through perfect times each and every day? It is through adversity and tough times can one truly recognize and cherish the hard times. Sometimes it is through the very bad and rough times, can we truly appreciate and love the good. One have to know the bad in order to know what good truly is. I was talking to a friend of mine, and she told me she was tired of suffering and struggling. I listened as she spoke and agreed. She was going through s...

So I'm one to usually write positive and encouraging things, but this post is necessary. Some people are quick to say:    But really?  Life's rather funny. As one gets older, one is liable to come across different type or sorts of people from varying cultures. What remains consistent however within all cultures and races, is the ability for people to be completely self-centered, brackish and downright nasty. There is  nothing more discouraging and disheartening that being surrounded by such people. I am saying this to warn you, and so that you can protect yourself from now or to avoid such people--so when they try to hurt you, it wouldn't have such a big impact on you. THESE ARE THE TYPE OF PEOPLE I URGE YOU NOT TO BE LIKE: The Never-Me-It'-You Sorta Person: I have been unfortunately blessed with being surrounded by many people like this. These are people that cannot see the difference between being rude and being honest, who cannot tell the differ...

"There comes a point in every one's life, wherein a person becomes tired of something. It is at this point when people choose to hold on that it is imperative to say--ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!" --PrettyChiq       This have been an incredibly difficult week for absolutely no reason. There have not been a day wherein I did not feel some form of doom or depression weighing hard on me. Some may say it's hormones, others may say it's lack of motivation--it does not matter. I learned something this week however, when to say--ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. These are limits to everything. Step back, getting away or removing yourself from something is not a bad thing. Some people may say it's a sign of weakness, but many know it's a sign of stress of remove yourself from what you are most comfortable with.      As people, we become happy and comfortable in our cycles, making change incredibly difficult to understand or accept. We want things to be as co...